McCarthy, Mary Susan "Susie" (Nee Huber) was born January 14, 1938 to John Huber and Mary Monica Bristol and grew up on Lake Minnetonka in Excelsior, MN in what she recalled as an idyllic childhood with six siblings, including four sisters – all of whom shared the first name “Mary” (like their mother). Susie was a tenderhearted mother, caregiver, clown, and firebrand; remembered for her affection, empathy, silly sense of humor, and loveable eccentricities. She was an adoring “mama bear” who showered her children with unconditional love and affection and treated friends like family.
Susie came of age in the shadow of the Cold War, at the height of the Red Scare and often recalled how she was taught in public school that her primary duty was to serve God, then country, then Family.
Faith, Patriotism, and Family were her watchwords ever since.
A registered nurse, Sue spent most of her career working in psychiatric hospitals. She found good in everyone she met and responded to obstinance, anger, and belligerence with love, respect and a desire to comfort, understand, and heal. She believed human dignity is something sacred and God-given and treated others accordingly.
Before becoming a mother, Sue joined the Air Force National Guard in her early thirties, where she served as a flight nurse and attained the rank of captain.
Sue was a devout Catholic from the old-school who preferred to attend Latin mass at St. Agnes parish in St. Paul.
She was a devotee Virgin Mary who believed in prophecies, prayed the rosary daily, and made regular pilgrimages to Our Lady Queen of Peace House of Prayer in Padua, MN.
A “bleeding-heart conservative”, Sue was a social conservative and a fiscal liberal who vilified communism/socialism/atheism while praying for their adherents. She loved to belt out patriotic songs around the piano with her sisters at the lake on the fourth of July (with a Manhattan and a cigarette in hand). A staunch pro-lifer on the war path with Satan, Sue railed against sin but loved saints and sinners alike. She particularly loved children and the birth of her first grandchild, Maryam (2007), gave new purpose to her life. Eternally maternal, Sue loved and doted on Maryam like a second mother and Maryam reciprocated in kind. In Feb 2013, Sue was a was diagnosed with dementia. Crestfallen and scared, she put on a brave face and continued life as before. Later that summer, she collapsed at home and was hospitalized, this episode marked a noticeable cognitive decline and a diagnosis of Primary Progressive Aphasia. After her hospitalization, Sue relied on daughter Molly for care and supervision. As symptoms progressed, Molly’s role became a 24-7 responsibility to which Molly responded as Sue would, if their roles were reversed. Sue’s condition made meaningful conversation difficult and the social life she once cultivated gradually diminished. Nonetheless, Mary Sue continued to communicate using the language of affection (smiles, kisses, hugs, tickles, and snuggles). Sue’s dementia has been has a nearly 7-year grieving process for her and her family. Despite the grief, Molly’s 24-hour care allowed Sue to continue living at home in a loving cocoon with her family for an additional 4 years. When Sue’s needs exceeded her children’s capacity to care for her at home, she moved to Ebenezer Ridges Care Center in Burnsville. For most of Sue’s residence, Molly made daily extended visits (usually twice a day) to provide care, nutrition, and love – often accompanied by granddaughter Maryam. Sue lived a few years longer than her physicians expected and this is due in no small part to the care of her daughter Molly.
Mary Sue, the lone surviving “Huber-girl”, surrounded by her children and their families, passed away on December 11, 2019 to rejoin the loved ones she has lost over the years.
She was preceded in death by her husband Thomas Byron McCarthy, her parents, brothers John "Jack" and Patrick, and sisters Monica, Margaret, Sally, and Mary Jo.
Sue is survived by daughter Molly McCarthy (Hafid Bradai), son Terry (Kathleen Bruce), and grandchildren Maryam Bradai, Leo McCarthy, and Luka McCarthy and many other loving family and friends.
Mass to be held Dec 18 at 11:00 AM with visitation at 10:00 AM.
St. John the Baptist Catholic Parish
680 Mill Street, Excelsior, MN 55331
Huber Funeral & Cremation Services 952-474-9595